Should you only date within your circles?

“So Femi, are you saying ladies should only guys with money or guys who have not yet hammered should only date within their “circles”?

Me: Lol. First off, I dont believe in what we call “date within your league” or “circles”. She might intimate me slightly at first but I have never believed anyone was out of my league. The real Q is whether (she) and I wanted to date each other or not. She doesnt have two heads and we are all children of God las las. Can I get an Amen? 😎

2. I have been told that money = security for women but ladies, do you know who the head of security is? Yep, Jesus. All that salary that is shining in your eyes can disappear in an instant. So thinking that a man can provide and guarantee said security for you (because he has certain leverages/ access/ opportunities) as a lady is a not entirely wise. During my marriage counselling, a couple got separated barely a month after their wedding. Why? Oga lost his job and madam says she cannot marry a man who doesnt have a job. So she packed her bags and left. Point is: a man who can provide for now is good but Jesus is greater. ✌🏾

3. My Egbon; Dr. Ola (Dr Ola Brown (Orekunrin))says this; “when you have your own money as a lady, you suddenly realize that these “rich” guys have nothing to offer you. Having your money in this context doesnt essentially translate to money in the bank. Sometimes “money” = exposure/ mindset/ orientation/ values and sometimes, cash. If you have been exposed, a date to KFC will not mean anything to you or make you order 200 packs for your equally hungry friends back home on the guy’s bill or show up with your friends unannounced on a date or get offended because he dinnor come to pick you in AC car or demand he pay for the date because afterall, he asked you out. Suddenly, the level of play is different.

4. Pray. This is the most important. Yes, we have countless stories of ladies who “supported” their men only for him to turn around and discard them when he made small change/ hammered. This is valid and that is where prayer comes in. Remember the parable of the sower? Some seeds fell on the rocky soil, others on sand but the only ones that grew and multiplied were the ones on the fertile ground. In this context, guys are exactly like that: rocky, sandy, choky, fertile et al. It is prudent to sow your seed/ support a fertile ground and guess how to identify a fertile ground? yep, you pray. Even the sower didnt know which grounds where fertile until it started to grow.

Again, please pray.